update: the pic is dad (1918 or 1919) from one of my great-grandfather's glass plate negatives.
Friday the 13th. The general view of this day is with suspicion and superstition – not a good day for most. Perhaps it would be more accurate to say that most view the day with a potential for the calamitous and catastrophic. The sky is falling and the rivers are turning red. Frankly I think it hilarious that there are no 13th floors or rooms numbered 13 and that 13 is often left out of numbering parcels of land or houses. How unfortunate it is that our lives are affected so by a superstition born in the Middle Ages.
Obviously I don’t feel that way. So, how did I escape this? Most importantly and uniquely, my dad was born on Friday the 13th and, despite my childhood view at times that he was the devil incarnate, he has brought far more good to the world than otherwise. I cannot even fathom feeling otherwise, much less feeling superstitious. October 13th, 1916 was his birth day and he is now 90 years young. I asked him how he felt about being 90 and he replied, “Well, give me a few days and maybe I can tell you.” Fair enough.
I began to think about all that has passed beneath his bridge; historical milestones that anyone with a general sense of history can reiterate. I shifted from the detached grandiose to far more mundane things; the thin things that make up his daily life, but layered together give his life substance and resonance. Some of his stories I’ve heard a hundred times, but if I’m listening I can hear something new, something I’ve not heard before. Working with him on the resurrection of his photos has brought up a slew of anecdotal information, some I’ll retain and some he will unfortunately take with him. I am, however, amazed at the level of detail with which he can recall things seemingly insignificant. Sometimes the level of detail will bore me to tears, as it does my siblings. Somewhere in those monologues, usually delivered after a Sunday dinner, was a diamond in the coal bin. I cannot tell you how often my sister, younger brother and I have wished we’d had a tape recorder going when he dropped one of those gems.
So now he’s 90 and living alone since mom died a few years ago. He’s made it this far fairly gracefully; although there have been seasons it has been with the grace of swans on ice. I can now sit back and think about his time and my time within it and be proud; not for a big, spectacular life, but remarkable for the layers of small things - and putting the kibosh on a superstition for Friday the 13th.